I just saw GrandMoo's POLL: "When I hear someone say something mean about a friend or relative, I...?"
I watch Oprah's new shows on her new channel OWN,...And that got me to thinking about Deepak Chopra's interview. She was talking about his health views, and how some of them could be controversial. (I am a student of his & follow him verbatim, by the way) She asked him how he deals with people just tearing him apart... how does he deal with people who disagree with his holistic views and put him down... says hurtful things personally, about him.
He thought for a moment... then expressed this thought... I don't pay any attention to personal negative opinions... they don't know me... it has nothing to do with me... so... "I truly believe that what other people say or think about me is none of my business." These are their thoughts and have nothing to do with who I really am.
Oprah jumped in interrupting, and she made him repeat that, in disbelief. I jumped up and ran closer to the TV, in disbelief. He repeated it (you know Deepak, he talks really slowly and distinctly)... I really believe this. I don't pay any attention to personal negative opinions... they don't know me... their misdirected thoughts have nothing to do with me... so... "I truly believe that what other people say or think about me is actually none of my business."
What a profound thought!!! Yes, words can hurt... If they are true, we can learn to do better, but if they are untrue... other's negative thoughts about me or someone else are none of my business. That hit me so hard, I literally felt a weight lifting off my shoulders. That, to me, is mind boggling on so many levels.
That one thought has changed profoundly how I try to conduct myself. and how I try to interact with others. So, to repeat gossip to another, to intentionally hurt, since it is none of my business, is unacceptable for me to deliberately do. None of us are perfect, I can only try.
It is even harder to remember, negative thoughts against me are actually "none of my business"...
Tags: Gossip Mean
