Here is a video that explains the principles of Byron Katie's (popularly known as Katie) The Work.  She helps sufferers realise that it your thinking that causes all your hurt and depression, not the actual event.  It is a 22 minute video.  If that is too much for you, go to YouTube or Google Video and type in Byron Katie.  I have two books of her and her simple but very effective approach has helped many people all over the world.  Her four questions 'forces' sufferers from depression, anxiety, anger, fear etc to realise that you cannot and should not argue with reality.  As you hang in there watching the video, you can see actual examples of what all this is about.

See what you think about her.  Use the link to view this video.  I do not know how to get this video on this forum.  Perhaps someone might care to explain this to me.

http://video.google.com.au/videosearch?q=byron+katie&emb=0&aq=1&oq=byron+#q=byron%20kat ie&emb=0&aq=1&oq=byron%20&start=10

Thank you Frits for posting this. I am sure these videos will help alot of people who are suffering in one way or another...

I may have worked out how to get a google video.  See if this works.

Great job Fritz! It works!!!