Being a grandparent is wonderful after raising your children. Most are close enough to have them visit and then go home. The option to spoil them. We are grandparents to 18 that are many states away. That is very hard to build much of a connection between us. It seems that being out of sight keeps us out of mind as well. We know they love us, but the bonding connection isn't the same. We know this because we had two live with us for 5 years before losing them to the distance.
We have tried many things to help retain the closeness to no avail. Myspace or facebook isn't very personal when others friends can observe as well. Mail seems to be a thing of the past. Even tried self addressed stamped envelopes..that failed.
I used to make lots of things for them...sadly without any thank you. But with the cost of postage continually going up. Our very fixed income has brought that to a halt. Now, I make little art cards and include them in their birthday cards.